Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Now I'm Normal

Hey bloggies, hope everyone had a great long weekend! Hubby and I were busy with bbq's and pool time and all that great stuff. Why does one day make SUCH a huge difference, the weekend feels soooo much longer and the work week feels so much shorter.

In any case just wanted to catch everyone up with me. Last Thursday I had my first OB appointment, which was exciting because I had graduated but also a little nerve wracking since I knew I was going back to an office where getting pregnant is a normal everyday occurrence. And you don't get weekly u/s or have dedicated nurses you can psycho dial with questions. It definitely weirded me out, to be thought of as normal after feeling anything but for so long. Not that I really thought I would be treated differently because I came through the RE, but its just an adjustment I'll have to get use to.

My appt started with the nurse, who's first question was when was the date of your last period. Umm, I seriously couldn't remember...I know my retrieval date, and transfer date, beta date...and I probably could have calculated back but when you're put on the spot and I'm bad at doing math in my head, I just really couldn't remember. So she jotted down my transfer date and said that would work. She said I would be getting some blood work, some STD swabby test in my whoha, and said the dr. would be in soon.

So I've actually been going to my OB for a couple years and I love her. And she works in a practice with all other woman OBs which I really like. She did say she was so happy I was here, but then started going through the usual stuff. Similar to my RE she is super laid back. She okay'd just about everything from working out (which I don't do) to eating soft cheeses (as she said any american ones are made with pasteurized milk anyways...still won't be doing), and traveling up until 34 weeks. Oh, and I did ask her about highlighting my hair (this was seriously my only question, hah) which of course she gave me the go ahead on, although I'm still waiting until right before 12 weeks when I have a wedding and 3 in. of dark brown roots with blonde ends will just not do!

She did say I wouldn't see her for another month, but I could come in for an u/s in 2 weeks to calm my nerves...thank you!! And of course I sneakily made it for this Friday, which is more like a week but who's really counting. They also outsource the 1st trimester screenings to a genetic specialist or something for the NT scan...so I made an appt for that ultrasound in 3 weeks.

After my appointment they had me meet with the benefits coordinator...and this is when I started feeling WAY too normal. She started going through my insurance, and all the co-pays/out of pockets costs/etc. It was just so weird because she kept saying well if you deliver in 2010 it may be this, but if its 2011 you will have to pay the whole deductible, yada yada yada. Like hold up, I'm actually going to be having a baby here...I'm still wrapping my mind around the fact I'm preggers.

Oh and then she gave me some form for the circumcision fee and explained how that worked depending if you were finding out or not. And while she's going through all this all I kept thinking was, I'm only 8 weeks...are you sure we should be doing this now...don't you know I'm a crazy fertility IVF patient and hardly believe I'm pregnant, let alone ready to talk about circumcision costs?!? I'm sure for most people this is totally normal but I was just not prepared. She told me she didn't need the forms back for a couple of months and hopefully by then I start to feel normal enough to tackle those bad boys.

So now I sit and count the minutes until my u/s on Friday! Have a great week everyone, let's hope it moves REAL fast!


Crossed Fingers said...

WOW!!! How exciting! Yea for being "normal". haha. I cannot wait to hear how the rest of our journey plays out. And I had no clue you had to pay extra for circumcision! I guess these are things you find out when the time comes.

The Baby Race said...

YAY NORMAL!!!! How very exciting to graduating to the OB!

Wrap your head around it, lady, you are pregnant!

Anonymous said...

Yay for being normal!! :) So glad everything is going well!

Jenny loves Louisiana said...

Wonderful story :) So happy that all is well.

Littlest True Blue said...

Yeah for both of our first OB appts! It totally is weird to be "normal"! And thanks for asking about the hair! That was the one question I forgot to ask! I'm going to book one any day now! My roots are getting BRUTAL!!! Can't wait for your next baby viewing on friday! I don't get to see my babe again until 20 weeks I don't think!!! With our insurance in Canada I think I only get ultrasounds at 12 weeks and 20 weeks unless there are other problems! Ahhhh!!! I might just have to "fake" a problem to get an extra one in there!

Samantha said...

Normal sounds beautiful!!! I am jealous of your ultrasound. My dr doesn't do another for a while (I think when he does the gender/anatomy screening at 24-yes he waits that long-weeks!). I am getting my NT scan though (I also have to go to a perinatologist for it bc my doc doesn't do them) at 12 week so that's only 3 away!

I am so happy everything is going so great!

Anonymous said...

Yay for graduating! And look at you being sneaky and scheduling your u/s early. :) I would have done the same. Counting down the days with you. I'm sure everything will look great!

Chelle said...

It is hard being "normal" isn't? I remember my doctor talking to me about similar things so early on in my pregnancy, and it just didn't seem real. I envy the women who get to go so blissfully and ignorantly from that BFP to D-day. However, we get to appreciate every second of pregnancy the way no woman who hasn't struggled does. Honestly, I would rather appreciate the gift than take it for granted. Everything about this pregnancy will be so much more miraculous than it would be had you not had to fight for it.

Here's to joining "the mortals." :)

Maureen said...

This is all so exciting. I am super happy for you and look forward to hearing about your next ultrasound:)

Rach said...

What a change of pace! Glad you graduated.

Have fun Friday with the ultrasound.

Anonymous said...

Normal rocks! Not than I would know anything about being normal :)
So glad all is well hon!

The (Type A) Nightmare said...

WHOOHOOO!!!! I don't know how I would've handled "the change" so I guess it's good that I got pregnant when I was taking a break from the RE. However, thank God for my OB. She gets me. And it sounds like yours does too. Yay for every other week scans. ;) They DO make you feel better and give you something to look forward to.

I'm so excited for you! I'm 8wks tomorrow, and very anxious for Friday's u/s. ;)

So happy for you! Glad you're normal and glad you love your OB. ;)

They haven't talked to me about circumcision fees. I probably would've passed out. ;)

Kim said...

Graduating to normal is a bitter-sweet experience. There are so many benefits, but I think there's a delayed reaction with the IF woman...her brain quit isnt there yet although she physically is, as you have experienced! You will get there, you will get caught up, soon enough!!! Smooth move on the U/S - slick lady!


Patricia said...

OMG that is so awesome! I'm thrilled to hear everything is going well.

Can't wait to hear about the next u/s.


Erin said...

I'm so glad that my clinic kept me until 12 weeks before I had to go to the OB. I would have been a wreck about it at 8 weeks. Sounds like your OB is awesome, though!

Anonymous said...

Congrats on being "normal"!! ;)

Leslie said...

Yeah for being normal now! Your OB sounds very understanding and supportive - that is nice she mentioned you can come in every two weeks. I look forward to hearing about your upcoming appts & scans!!

Shanny said...

Yay for graduating!!! I remember when I had my last appt at the fertility clinic I felt like I had a really sad breakup, but it was nice to be "normal" again =)

I can't believe they are already talking about circumcision and all sorts of things I'm 19 weeks and haven't had that discussion with my OB yet, interesting. Enjoy your u/s on Friday, it will be great!!!

Andrea said...

Congrats Graduate!!!

I can only imagine the thoughts that swirled in your head as you listened to all the mumbo, jumbo talk of due dates and insurance fees, etc...It's so overwhelming when you are just trying to wrap your head around being prego :) Like everything is on fast forward.

So happy that all is well and know that we will all be rallying you on Friday. Keep living in this beautiful moment!


2catdaughters said...

Yay for normal! Can't wait to hear your update after your next u/s!

Jane said...

So. Hey. Guess what?


It is totally official now, although I can understand how you must still be nervous. But way to go on your "graduation"!